We want to create and celebrate safe, sober spaces. If you want to contribute, please read the rules before sharing your suggestions.
1. Focus on non-alcoholic recommendations.
While the establishment, venue, or event doesn’t have to be alcohol-free, the subject of your post (whether it’s your experience of a beverage, restaurant, or activity) should be. This is not the place to rave about your favorite wine or the weed infused beer you drank while visiting San Francisco. This is about supporting sobriety by reducing the stress of socializing while abstaining from alcohol.
2. Include a trigger warning for any mention of intoxicants.
Please include a warning if your post discusses alcohol or any intoxicant, as that can be triggering for some people. This is not the place to post about substitutes for alcohol or about any mind-altering substances. Our goal is to create, celebrate, and share sober social spaces.
3. Don’t sobriety shame.
Sobriety means different things to different people. Please don’t judge or attack somebody’s lifestyle or path to recovery. Be kind, courteous, and respectful. Offer support and constructive suggestions.
4. Use “I” statements.
Please refrain from from speaking in the imperative. That means don’t tell others what they should or must do. Phrase your advice in terms of your own story, talking about your experience.
Comment that will be removed: “You should do X”
Comment that will not be removed: “When I was in X, I did Y, and this is my story…”
“Strongly recommending” and saying “I would do this if I were you” are therefore not appropriate either.
Are we missing something?
We appreciate your feedback and want to make this community as supportive and creative as possible. Write us at sobercities@gmail.com if you think we can improve our rules to foster better communication and more constructive suggestions.
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